Day 13: What do you think is the hardest thing about distance?
Emily: “What isn’t hard about the distance? The hardest thing about the distance is just….not being able to have physical contact. The lack of physical contact is manifested in different ways. It’s not being there to fall asleep together. It’s not being there to hold hands in the car or at the movie theater. It’s not being able to hug when I’m upset or when Jen is upset. It’s not being able to sit down and have a meal with that person in the morning or at the end of the day. It’s not being able to curl up on the sofa every lazy Sunday. It’s not being able to do mundane things like….chores together. It’s not being able to do all of these things that ultimately mean having a life with that person. Until then, honey bear…..”
Jen: “There are lots of things that are difficult about being in a long distance relationship and I’m sure a lot of people are like,”why don’t you just find someone who lives near you?” But the fact of the matter is, Em and I both believe that we were destined to find each other and that until our circumstances have improved, this is what we have to deal with. I think we also both believe that in a lot of ways, this time apart actually makes as stronger as a couple.
However, in terms of the hardest thing to deal with in a long distance relationship, I think it would have to be when you have a really bad day. When I have a really bad day, the only thing I want to do is hear Em/see Em/get a hug from Em. And while I can do two out of the three, the hugging is the most missed. It is the comfort of having the other person by your side, even on days that aren’t bad. It’s the comfort of having her next to me when I go to a party, or the comfort of having her on the couch while watching a movie, or the comfort of climbing in to bed with her every night.
This is what I miss the most about Emily, it’s her physical presence next to me and the comfort I get from having her by my side through everything.”